Divorcing a spouse doesn’t mean divorcing the children, too. Family law in British Columbia takes into consideration what is in the best interests of the children and that usually means have a healthy, well-rounded relationship with each parent if possible. Divorce is in no way the fault of any children involved and although parents may relinquish the personal parts they play in a former spouse’s life, they should continue to be there to support their children 100 per cent.
When parents share joint custody, it may mean they have their kids half the time, but it doesn’t mean they give them half their attention. No matter where their children may be, it is important for them to know that they have the love and support of the other parent even though that parent may not be physically present. Children shouldn’t be pawns in a game of tug of war between their parents, but instead made to feel like they’re all on the same team.
Instead of worrying about sharing their kids, divorced parents may give their children the greatest gift when they agree to co-parent 100 per cent of the time. This mean putting their own issues on the back burner for the sake of their kids’ well-being. Children emulate what they see and when parents work together to parent their children, it may be sending a positive message to their children in many ways.
Divorce is difficult in the best of circumstances. But family law in British Columbia give parents the tools to succeed in positive co-parenting. A lawyer is in the position to offer intelligent advice to clients on how to achieve the best parental outcomes in clients’ unique situations. The attorney may also be able to offer up names of others who may be able to lend some advice — such as family therapists and child psychologists.